How To Get Over Someone You Never Dated?

We have all been there, developing feelings for someone whom we never even dated. This is a natural thing and happens to most people around the world. Out of nowhere, they start to develop feelings for someone who might not even have a clue about it.

It’s a very strange experience to find yourself feeling something comparable to heartbreak around a person you never actually dated. What gives you the authority to have these feelings anyway? But that’s the thing about feelings unless you have magical powers, you can’t just switch them on and off at your will. Wouldn’t that be nice?

These feelings are one-sided only and when you see the other person dating someone else then it hurts you so much even though you never dated them.

It’s true, getting over someone you loved is hard but getting over someone you never dated and still had feelings for them is confusing and harder. When you date someone and you guys broke up then there would be a certain reason why you broke up but when you have not dated someone then it can be hard to pull yourself away because you still might be wondering that somehow, something might happen.

That said, here are some thoughts to consider that may help you if you are currently trying to move on from someone you could never truly call yours.

Asking that person out

The first thing that you should do is actually ask that person out. You should take a risk and ask the person to go out with you. You will get to know what they are feeling and if they turn you down then it means that they are simply not interested and it would be easier for you to get over them as they clearly aren’t interested in you.

Why did you develop feelings for that person?

If you can’t muster up the courage to ask them out or they are already in a relationship then you should ask yourself why have you been developing strong feelings for them for no reason.

Sometimes we get so deluded in fantasies that we start to think that our fantasies are realistic and start believing in them and that is where the damage starts.

If you have developed feelings for someone who isn’t interested in you or is already in a relationship then you should remind yourself that you deserve to be happy, everyone does. Happiness is free. You deserve someone who will love you the same way you do.

Ask yourself: Why did you develop feelings for that person?

Sometimes we are not really attracted to a person but to their characteristics and traits. You gotta ask yourself what made you like this person and develop feelings for them? Is that person a nice human being, is that person funny, smart, cool?

You should ask yourself what you really want and once you figure it out, you will probably find more people with the same things that you are looking for in a partner. There are plenty of people out there that might be interested in you and you’re better off with those people than wasting your time by developing feelings for someone you are not even close with.

Throw yourself into new situations

One great way to move on from someone is to remove yourself from environmental cues that remind you of this person. Throw yourself into new situations with new people. This is arguably the easiest way to get over someone in general. When you are constantly being exposed to environmental triggers that take you back to moments that remind you of someone, it is next to impossible to move on without some serious mind control.

There are always other options available

Keep one thing in mind that if one person is not interested in you then someone else might be. This world consists of 7 billion people and there are a lot of people out there who will like you for who you are.

When getting over someone the line “there’s plenty of fish in the sea” can be painful and frustrating but this line is in fact true and it represents the reality. Yes, getting over someone is hard but you know should that there are a lot of people out there who will be interested in you. There’s no point in punishing yourself by developing feelings for someone you were not intimate with.