The thing with emotions is that you control them. You can’t help the way you feel about something. Even when you can logically understand something and tell yourself the reasons why you should or should not feel a certain way.
When it comes to developing feelings for a girl that has a boyfriend, clearly this is not an ideal situation, but what to do about it? How can you get this girl to like you?
This is a controversial topic and, to be clear, I am not recommending you go around home-wrecking so to speak. However, I still think this is a topic that is worth exploring and considering from a non-invasive perspective.
Feelings are weird. You can get them for anyone, even if a girl is in a relationship, you may still develop feelings for her. If you like a girl that already has a boyfriend and is in a relationship then it can not only get weird but also complicated.
Most likely she is gonna reject you and you will also get hate and resentment from her boyfriend. If you really like a girl and want to give it a shot then you can but there’s no guarantee here. You gotta get her respect and treat her with consideration and if it does work out, you will have to put some serious effort and hard work to make it all work.
If you are truly invested in this person and are convinced you guys would be good together, the best thing you can do is let it be her idea, not yours. Humans are very predictable, they need things to be their own idea or they are significantly less likely to adopt and implement it.
Here are some tips that can help you to get a girl to like you who already has a boyfriend:
Find out if the girl is happy with her current boyfriend
The first thing you should do is find out whether she is happy in her current relationship or not. If she is head-over-heels in love with her boyfriend then you aren’t gonna get her. However, if things are a bit sloppy and you make her believe that you can be a better boyfriend than her current one then yes there might be a chance but first thing’s first, you gotta scout and observe their relationship.
Find out if the girl is interested in you
You should look out for the signs to find out if the girl is interested in you. This whole thing will work out if the girl is interested in you. If she doesn’t like you back at least a bit then you aren’t going anywhere. Before making any move and moving forward, you should find out if she likes you or not. Look out for the signs, such as eye contact, laughing and smiling, spending time with you, physical intimation, etc.
Spend time with her
If the signs are obvious and she seems kinda interested then you should try to spend more time with her. Get to know her, know what her likes and dislikes are, make her feel like you care about her. Treat her with respect and take what she says into consideration, give her importance and value to make her feel like that she’s important to you. Give her your full attention, open up to her, and tell her about your secrets to make her feel like you trust her.
Drop hints that you like her
If all is going well and you are friends with her then you should try to flirt with her a little if it seems fine and drop subtle hints that you like her, she is important to you, and find a way to tell her that you would like to be more than just friends but don’t rush it, otherwise, you’re just gonna ruin everything.
There is no guarantee this will work, but it is the most ethical and genuine way to approach this question. If things are not meant to work out between the girl you like and her boyfriend, eventually they won’t. If they are, and you actually care about this person, then you must conduct yourself with respect for her feelings and life and move on. Eventually, you will.